Contributed by Nicholine Akou
Whining is an unpleasant sound commonly used by toddlers to pass across a message which is usually very annoying to most parents. When a kid gets between 1-5 years old, he or she starts making demands of the things he/she wants and when is not given, the kid adopts whining to be the solution to have what he or she wants because most parents end up saying “yes” even when is supposed to be “no” just to stop the child from whining. Nevertheless, it is important to know the few things that push kids to whine and these few are outlined below.
The child wants you: most often, kids whine because they need their parent’s attention. They want you to play with them, carry them, take a walk in the garden and have your whole time concentrated on them. When they fail to get this attention, they can whine continuously for hours. When this happens, try paying attention to the kids rather than getting angry towards him or her. If you have a lot to do, just smile at the kids which is another way of say “ baby we will do that soon, mummy is busy, you will soon have her entirely” by doing so, you make the kid to feel better and he /she might be distracted and the whining will equally stop. Make sure your attention is given to the kid when you have the time.
The child wants a particular dress: as your baby is gradually growing up, he/she is learning how to talk and equally learning how to make choices on the few things that he/she wants including her clothing. At times the child rejects a particular dress because it hurts on some body parts and makes him/her feel uncomfortable while he/she prefers a particular dress because it has pictures on it or he/she finds it easily to play in the dress.
When this ensue, you must not give into what exactly the child wants you can propose in a low tone “baby this one also looks beautiful, you can’t be wearing that other one daily, you will become a dirty boy or girl. Try this one honey, it equally suits you.” Do not throw insults on the child because he/she copies whatever you say and do.
The child is sick: at times, a child hums when he or she is sick. The child can’t explain what exactly is wrong with him/her so he/she chooses to whine in order for you to understand that he/she is going through pain.
When this occurs, pay attention to the kid carefully. He/she might be humming with signs on positions that hurt. You can equally sing a lullaby to calm him/her down or read stories for him/her while looking for a solution for the sickness.
Toys or candies: at some point, children equally whine because they need their toys or candies. When this happens, teach him/ her a better way of asking those things. At times you can imitate the way he/she is crying for him/her to understand that the sound she is producing is very annoying and unpleasant to the ears. You can ask “honey, it is not better to say please for my toys or candies” or it is even better when you keep repeating “mummy please for my toys or candies while he/she is humming.
When the child is feeling sleepy: most children cry when they want to sleep. All you need is to identify such moments. Pamper the kid as he/she gradually falls into sleep.
The few points mentioned above are just to guide you understand the things that kids easily whine for and the possible reactions towards such situation. It will be fun if you share your experience and your solutions towards your kids whining in the comment section below or rather practice the few points above and share how far it works for you. You can equally read other websites and gather more information to stop your whining child.
Edited by Emiliene Alemkeng